Building a Context for Relationship – On-demand Workshop

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On this page you’ll find:

  • A replay of the workshop
  • A downloadable copy of the accompanying notes
  • Useful resources

Workshop Replay

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Download the Accompanying Notes (PDF, 519KB)

Please note that a copy of the slides is not available. Please refer instead to the Accompanying Notes.

Viewer Contributions During the Presentation

1. What Are the Interests, Passions, or Talents of Your Family Member?

Workshop participants provided far too many responses than we could fit onto this board, so this is just a small selection of interests shared.

A board covered in sticky notes, each listing a different interest

2. What strikes you about these stories?

Workshop participants were asked to reflect on what they noticed about the stories that Janet shared in the first half of the workshop.

  • person-centred
  • creating genuine relationships
  • Craft everything around relationships
  • Relationship takes time
  • working towards options that lead to relationships
  • it takes time
  • extraordinarily ordinary stories.
  • valued and genuine roles in community
  • so much – don’t know where to start really!
  • relationships beyond just family are the safeguards for the person.
  • To start where you are and start small. It takes time. The value of that time in building sustainable relationships, not superficial ones
  • positive, forward-thinking, and person’s value
  • don’t franchise!
  • Roles extended as relationships grew
  • The dog story was fabulous to explain how to connect with community with similar interest, all stories described this well
  • they are about the human wiring towards connection and prosocial behaviour which makes us such a successful species
  • relationships spring from shared interests
  • started with the person
  • It takes time!
  • Recognising Person’s Voice
  • Importance of knowing the person
  • Networking important
  • the time it takes time as in Tammy’s example particularly for people who are not or limited in verbal communication.
  • Creating Opportunities
  • Person-centred building around the connections the person already has
  • Layering overtime to build rich identity and belonging as opposed to snippets overtime: loved that way of explaining it
  • going further with interests than we might – exploring further, great things take time
  • the importance of other relationships, not just relationships with family members
  • The ‘bridging’ work – the incremental steps, the gradual introductions and building relationships in small safe steps
  • What are others with the same interests doing with their time
  • one interest at a time
  • there was regularity
  • You are more likely to do stuff for people you know
  • Investigate interests more deeply to find places to become part of a routine to be involved
  • so many natural opportunities in our community
  • The amount of time/energy/thinking others put into each person’s situation
  • need people around the person to be intuitive, empathetic and caring
  • Re the dog example – always recognizing the interests of the person, rather than fitting the person into the interest
  • patience and persistence guided by the good principles
  • like the concept of ‘where are the other people with these interests?’
  • ‘what are we listening to?’ – our own delight that he had a paying job – or his unhappiness in that job
  • being local
  • Relationships naturally happen when the place and the activity are centred around the interests of the person
  • The building of one role from another
  • Where are others with the same interests in the community
  • Not separate from others in the interest groups, among their kind in the community. Loved this!
  • intentionality, listening, reflection, checking out, trialling, learning
  • a person’s differences don’t need to be negative – we can look at a positive outcome

3. At-Home Exercise

Janet invited the attendees to think about one of their family member’s interests, passions, or talents, and posed the question: “Where are the people in your location who share the same interest as your loved one?”

4. Where are the places where you will find people who like books?

In a brilliant brainstorming exercise, workshop participants came up with the following suggestions:

A selection of sticky notes, each suggesting a location where people who like books might be found


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Janet’s Books

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Article: Learning with John

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Article: Insidious Congregation Creep

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About Janet Klees

Portrait of Janet KleesJanet Klees is the Executive Director of the Durham Association for Family Respite Services, a family-centred, SRV-anchored resource and support centre for families interested in building good, ordinary lives in community for and with their family members with disability.

Janet has spoken many times at our events over the years. She is a popular presenter because of her ability to communicate the nuances of supporting people with disability to enjoy the good things of life.